Rejection can be part of God’s plan for your life

Turn the gloom into glamour

Gilead’s wife bore sons; and when his wife’s sons grew up, they drove Jephthah out, and said to him, “You shall have no inheritance in our father’s house, for you are the son of another woman.” Then Jephthah fled from his brothers and dwelt in the land of Tob; and worthless men banded together with Jephthah and went out raiding with him. And so it was, when the people of Ammon made war against Israel, that the elders of Gilead went to get Jephthah from the land of Tob. Then they said to Jephthah, “Come and be our commander, that we may fight against the people of Ammon.”

Judges 11:2-6.

Jephthah’s story has two sides, the dark and the bright; man’s rejection and God’s acceptance.

Rejection is part of human experiences. Because society has set up standards, timelines and expectations of you. You’re going to be rejected for reasons beyond your control — if you fail to meet their requirements.

Jephthah was rejected for reasons he didn’t choose — being an illegitimate son. Yet, despite the disappointment, he didn’t choose bitterness, he chose something better for his life. He created a grand purpose for himself and others.

He turned a gloomy situation into a glamorous one and by God’s grace, he achieved a great feat. Those who had rejected him sought his help. 

Society defines value in different ways. By the measure of affluence — the material things one possesses, by the level of education, the position and authority one wields, by the number of people they are influencing… etc.

Beloved reader, do not be tempted to define your value based on the diverse societal definitions. I want you to know that your value isn’t measured and defined by society.

You’re valuable because you’re a child of God. You were bought with the precious blood of Jesus. The value Jesus has is the same value you have. The only difference with the value of the other person is in the manner in which we choose to do with the value we have.

Maybe you’ve been rejected because of your age. Maybe they’re saying you’re not educated. Perhaps they are saying you’re ugly. Maybe it’s because of your skin colour or your gender. Perhaps they’re saying you’re poor…etc.

I want to tell you that like Jephthah you can create a purpose out of rejection. God’s grace is sufficient for you to turn that rejection into great accomplishments. If God approves of you, nobody will invalidate you. Even those who despised and betrayed you will soon hear, see and seek the value in you!

Questions to consider

  1. Are you facing rejection from your family, friends, workmates etc?
  2. How are you responding to the rejection you’re going through?
  3. How can you apply God’s Word to cope with the rejection you’re facing?

Let’s declare Psalms 23:5 upon our lives together.

“You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over.” Amen!

God bless you abundantly!


Why young people are losing a sense of usefulness

It is alarming how the young generation is committing suicide as opposed to the elderly. They are killing themselves (and their loved ones) in the name of frustration, disappointment and depression.

Yet the older people are still digging deeper for new opportunities. Why is it that our grandmothers and grandfathers still wish to live long? What is it that they still want to live for?

Purpose. An aspect which is scarce in a majority of young people these days. Without purpose they’re void of vision and hope, hence losing a sense of usefulness. Because they have nowhere to utilise their skills, gifts and knowledge. Lack of usefulness engenders suicidal thoughts.

Young person, create a purpose; commit to it, and set yourself flying. With a purpose, you won’t be overwhelmed by challenges.

Develop a sense of optimism, positivity and patience. One step at a time you’ll get there no matter how long it takes. But it won’t take forever.

Questions to consider: 

  1. Do you have an unquenchable yearning after a God-given purpose that matters too much to you that you have a compelling reason to accomplish no matter what? 
  2. What setbacks are holding you back from accomplishing what matters to you most?
  3. How can you overcome the challenges holding you back?
  4. Are you determined to plunge into action now?

First of all, however, entrust God to take care of your journey because a man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps. (Proverbs 16:9). Amen!

God bless you abundantly!

Spiritual growth

Five lessons from the parable of the growing seed

“And He said, “The kingdom of God is as if a man should scatter seed on the ground, and should sleep by night and rise by day, and the seed should sprout and grow, he himself does not know how. For the earth yields crops by itself: first the blade, then the head, after that the full grain in the head. But when the grain ripens, immediately he puts in the sickle, because the harvest has come.”

Mark 4:26-29.

God’s Word has the power to transform. When we are transformed, we embrace the image of God in us. We become better able to see ourselves in His perspective, not in our limited and narrow lens. 

From the above scriptures, we can learn the following lessons.

  • Have a prepared heart

You must prepare your heart before you sow the word because a stony heart will not retain the seed. You must get rid of the nature of sin and satan, which is death, and take on the nature of God which is life, through salvation by believing in Jesus Christ. It is hard for a dead heart to receive the word of life because the dead things inside will choke the word.

  • Sow the seed

Put God’s word in your heart. Meditate the word; make it more real in your life. We need to get to the place where God’s Word is real and He’s greater than any situation we’re going through.

  • Have faith that the seed will germinate

On many occasions, we put the seed of the word in our hearts for a while but if it doesn’t germinate almost immediately, we dig it up through our negative words and actions.  Then we wonder why it didn’t work. 

It isn’t our duty to know how the seed is germinating; God knows how. The seed must remain in the ground over time to germinate. In the same way, God’s Word has to abide in us. The word must be mixed with faith for it to work. Faith involves positive confessions and actions in line with God’s Word. (John 15:7-8).

  • Be patient

There are different stages of growth. Many people are impatient, wanting to bypass some stages and get the full-grain right now. God will not give the full-grain if you haven’t seen the blade first. Beware of satan’s quick fixes—glitters masquerading as gold. The faster they appear, the sooner they disappear.

In a world where early achievers are so opulently awarded, it’s hard to maintain confidence if your process is slower and more intentional—especially when others have hope in you. However, never let your confidence be replaced by self-doubt. Endure the process until the fruit ripens.

  • Harvest when the grain ripens

Don’t take the task of harvesting as difficult. Harvest without compromising, because this is the season you longed for. Enjoy God’s blessings to the fullest. Be a blessing to others also.

“So now, brethren, I commend you to God and to the word of His grace, which can build you up and give you an inheritance among all those who are sanctified.”

Acts 20:32.

God’s Word is powerful in our lives. It has everything in it we will ever need. God has provided everything through Jesus. All we have to do is by faith, to take the seeds of the word and sow them in our hearts through reading it, meditating on it, and letting it take root in our spirits.

Then, we must appreciate and be patient with each phase of growth, knowing that each phase is significant since it leads to the next. As we do that, we’ll be fruitful in our ministries, businesses, studies, relationships—all dimensions of life. We’ll also be strong enough to withstand the storms in our lives. Amen.

Stay blessed!