Brokenness is the way to perfect love

“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love”

1 John 4:18.

Fear diverts us from the most powerful thing in life. Love. It hinders us from giving ourselves to the people we love. It prevents us from receiving the people who have opened themselves to us.

We get betrayed all the time. Annoyed. Hurt. Disappointed. Humiliated. Heartbroken… By close friends. By the people we love and trust the most. By the people we open our hearts to.

How do you react to such treatments? Does your heart recoil onto itself in fear and hide so far so that you cannot even “hear” its beats. Does it close its doors from the outside world in self-protection so it doesn’t want to notice; so it doesn’t want to be noticed?

This isn’t the route to take. This way, you become an alive person outside, but a dead person inside.

Dead because, despite the survival boundaries and defence tactics you have developed for yourself, your heart is still bleeding in pain.

Your heart is still carrying the burden of your wound around with you and it is weighing you down so you can’t move forward. Your heart is still battling deep-seated bitterness and this is affecting the way you live.

Because like a shadow, your heart follows you wherever you go, fearful as it is.

Because you’re still suffering from the fear of not being with someone you would like to be with.

We can not live the abundant life Jesus brought us by running away from the ones we love. There is nowhere to run to; there is no one to run to.

It is only God’s love, embodied in Jesus Christ that can make us truly, purely and perfectly love. When we love Him with all our hearts, souls and minds.

Then we allow His love to flow inside us. When we’re full of this love to the extent that we experience an overflow, then love flows outside, into the lives of others.

When God’s love breaks us, love flows without force. Now we start to see ourselves clearly, the deeper truth in us. Not with our human senses, but with God’s eyes. We realize that we are all humans. Weak. Vulnerable. Fallible. Frail. Empty. Broken…

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, and irredeemable.”

C.S. Lewis.

Remember how Jesus was humiliated. Beaten. Spat on. Stripped. Yet, He stood there. Naked. Broken. Bleeding. Fearless. He said nothing; He did nothing.

He didn’t defend himself. He didn’t curse them. But He prayed for them, “Father, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing”

“He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openeth not his mouth.”

Isaiah 53:7.

This is the way to go. To allow ourselves to be open. To be vulnerable. To be broken the more. Broken by God’s love so He can mend our broken hearts. This is the way to grow.

The way to heal is to forgive and let go. It is to be reconciled. The way to freedom is to allow Jesus to collect the broken pieces of your heart and fix them together.

You can not heal by trying to fix with your tactics. Jesus knows how to do it because He was also broken, but He overcame it.

“Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.”

Isaiah 53:4-5.

Thank you for reading. God bless you more.

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