Brokenness is the way to perfect love

“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in loFear diverts us from the most powerful thing in life. Love. It hinders us from giving ourselves to the people we love. It prevents us from receiving the people who have opened themselves to us.

1 John 4:18.

We get betrayed all the time. Annoyed. Hurt. Disappointed. Humiliated. Heartbroken… By close friends. By the people we love and trust the most. By the people we open our hearts to.

How do you react to such treatments? Does your heart recoil onto itself in fear and hide so far so that you cannot even “hear” its beats. Does it close its doors from the outside world in self-protection so it doesn’t want to notice; so it doesn’t want to be noticed?

This isn’t the route to take. This way, you become an alive person outside, but a dead person inside.

Dead because, despite the survival boundaries and defence tactics you have developed for yourself, your heart is still bleeding in pain.

Your heart is still carrying the burden of your wound around with you and it is weighing you down so you can’t move forward. Your heart is still battling deep-seated bitterness and this is affecting the way you live.

Because like a shadow, your heart follows you wherever you go, fearful as it is.

Because you’re still suffering from the fear of not being with someone you would like to be with.

We can not live the abundant life Jesus brought us by running away from the ones we love. There is nowhere to run to; there is no one to run to.

It is only God’s love, embodied in Jesus Christ that can make us truly, purely and perfectly love. When we love Him with all our hearts, souls and minds.

Then we allow His love to flow inside us. When we’re full of this love to the extent that we experience an overflow, then love flows outside, into the lives of others.

When God’s love breaks us, love flows without force. Now we start to see ourselves clearly, the deeper truth in us. Not with our human senses, but with God’s eyes. We realize that we are all humans. Weak. Vulnerable. Fallible. Frail. Empty. Broken…

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, and irredeemable.”

C.S. Lewis.

Remember how Jesus was humiliated. Beaten. Spat on. Stripped. Yet, He stood there. Naked. Broken. Bleeding. Fearless. He said nothing; He did nothing.

He didn’t defend himself. He didn’t curse them. But He prayed for them, “Father, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing”

“He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openeth not his mouth.”

Isaiah 53:7.

This is the way to go. To allow ourselves to be open. To be vulnerable. To be broken the more. Broken by God’s love so He can mend our broken hearts. This is the way to grow.

The way to heal is to forgive and let go. It is to be reconciled. The way to freedom is to allow Jesus to collect the broken pieces of your heart and fix them together.

You can not heal by trying to fix with your tactics. Jesus knows how to do it because He was also broken, but He overcame it.

“Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.”

Isaiah 53:4-5.

Thank you reading. God bless you more.

Forget war, remember the kindness

The world is full of people who are always radiating with light despite the increasing darkness due to man’s inhumanity to fellow man. Some people do kind things to us though we might not pay attention to them. They may have done small or big things but their kindness still reverberates in our hearts.

We encounter kind people one time or another and interestingly they may be strangers to us. We may not have met face to face before, yet, they show us kindness without knowing us.

Does this resonate with you? Are there people who have done you kindness without expecting anything in return? Do you know their names? Where do they stay? Where do they work?…

The person who whispers a “hello” wrapped in a golden smile adorning our day with sunshine. The person who offers a lift on their bicycle when he finds us trekking along the way. The person who sits close to us in the hospital to share our feelings and encourage us because we are feeling miserable. Do you admire that person?

The person who shows us direction when we’re lost within the city. The person who assists us to carry our luggage that is too heavy. The person who pays school fees for our children. The person who has volunteered to offer humanitarian aid in war-torn Ukraine… the list is long. Do you remember that person?

We might not know their names but we know one amazing thing about them. We’re witnesses of their acts of kindness to us. Maybe they do not remember their actions but we do. Because they have taught us to see the world through a beautiful lens. A lens of kindness. Love. Compassion. Mercy. Grace. Hospitality. Humanity…

Isn’t it good to remember those people who have shown us a kindness? Isn’t it reasonable to anchor ourselves in this beautiful practice — to show kindness to others ourselves?

I hope we can choose to be the people who shine a light on other people’s pathways when ours cross along with theirs. I hope we can choose to forget the wrongs we have been done. I hope we can choose to do kindness to those who have wronged us instead of retaliating.

We can glean a great lesson of kindness from the following message as told by Jesus, the epitome of kindness.

“… But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was. And when he saw him, he had compassion. So he went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine; and he set him on his own animal, brought him to an inn, and took care of him. On the next day, when he departed, he took out two denarii, gave them to the innkeeper, and said to him, ‘Take care of him; and whatever more you spend, when I come again, I will repay you.’’… “Go and do likewise”

Luke 10:30-37.

Wonderful! This act of kindness transcends the particular and becomes universal.


Go and do the same!

How do you react when someone offends you?

Someone says to you something offensive. You stand there, helpless. Traumatised. Humiliated. Victimized. You’re wondering why your personhood is being disrespected.

How do you react? Do you just assemble the perfect arsenal of weapons of words to blow up the assailant — the ultimate knock-out verbal punch? Do you choose to shame and tell the world how bad that person is?

You’ll day-to-day face many situations where someone insults you. You may not be able to avert what they hurl at you, yet you can always decide how you respond. You can choose to pay attention to these daily annoyances and verbal insults and waste valuable energy and time or you can purpose to brush them off.

You can effortlessly respond furiously to harshly punish them. But … that calculated David’s fatal slingshot you launch on your “Goliath” feels awful and ugly — you don’t feel great afterwards.

Instead, you can quench their violent embers of words by choosing better and kind words and being gentle. You can choose to react less. You can choose to remain silent — sometimes the most powerful choice is to say nothing.

“For “He who would love life And see good days, Let him refrain his tongue from evil, And his lips from speaking deceit. Let him turn away from evil and do good; Let him seek peace and pursue it.”

1 Peter 3:10-11.

Have a great day!

We never outgrow dependence on our heavenly Father

If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you. By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be My disciples.

John 15:7–8

In the earthly kingdom, our earthly fathers expect that, when we grow up, we stop depending on them. In the heavenly Kingdom, we never outgrow dependence on our heavenly Father.

The more we abide in Him, the more we receive from Him; the more we grow. This is our Father’s glory! Contrary, the more we abide in our earthly fathers, the more they push us away, sometimes when we need their help most.

Therefore, no matter what happens, whether small or big, whether the people you depend on push you away or not, it cannot break God’s covenant of peace and kindness from His children. He’s a merciful God.

It is better to focus on the promises of the author and the finisher of our faith than to focus on the gravity of circumstances and people who can change at any time.

“For the mountains shall depart And the hills be removed, But My kindness shall not depart from you, nor shall My covenant of peace be removed,” Says the Lord, who has mercy on you.

Isaiah 54:10

The one whose promises are yes and amen says,

“Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will by no means pass away”.

Matthew 24:35.

The creator and the owner of all things assures us,

“Do not fear, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.

Luke 12:32.